“I’ve tried everything.”
“He just won’t listen.”
“I don’t know what to do with her.”
Sound familiar? All of these are phrases repeated over and over by exasperated parents at the end of their rope with a child who, no matter what, will not listen. “Strong-willed, stubborn, and bull-headed” are words used to describe this type of child that has a will of his own. He terrorizes his teachers all day only to come home and make everyone else miserable. He won’t clean his room, back talks you, and does everything except what you ask him to do.
Oppositional Defiant Disorder is a pattern of behavior that is negative and hostile. These children often lose their temper, argue with adults, and continually refuse to comply for seemingly no good reason. They blame others for their mistakes and hate responsibility. Accepting responsibility means they would actually have to change and they won’t let this happen.
The exhausted parents often seek professional help wherein he or she receives a diagnosis of Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD). Sound scary? It doesn’t have to. As a counselor myself I work to explain to my clients that a diagnosis is simply a way to conceptualize a set of behaviors being exhibited by their child. This is particularly helpful with ODD children because they have a specific set of behaviors that require a specific set of interventions.
What has caused this pattern of behavior? It could be they are simply over-indulged and want it “their way,” but regardless of the cause they are going to push back against the ruling adult. In The O.D.D. Lifeline, Kimberly Abraham and Marney Studaker-Cordner walk you through a plan that will change your life. Both have worked with ODD and conduct-disorder* children and their families, but through Kim’s own personal struggle, you get the sense that she understands what you are going through and this means a lot.
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*Conduct Disorder crosses into the realm of illegal behavior where ODD does not.